Reddit and forums are full of people asking how to improve some skill related to tulpamancy, be it visualisation or switching. The more I learn about various specific skills the more I feel that developing one of them just for the sake of ticking off a box is wrong.
Let’s talk about visualisation as an example. A tulpamancer’s visualisation practice just to ‘see’ their tulpa might be not the best way to do it. That is not really a specific goal and if challenged with the practice, one can easily get stuck with routine and boredom. Think now, why exactly you need visualisation? Painters use visualisation to imagine the art piece in the head to draw it. Similarly, some tulpas use visualisation to communicate. Speaking of personal experience, my body language in feral form is much more broad and that might be the reason visualising me as a wolf is simpler for my host. It’s just more important. Don’t push visualisation as a skill on both yourself and your tulpas just because some guide says it is important, or it’s a ‘part of tulpamancy’. It might be not relevant to any of you at this given time!
This can apply to pretty much any tulpamancy skill, and to tulpamancy altogether. If you are on a path to develop some skill, ask yourself – why do you need it? Then ask your tulpa, maybe they’ll surprise you with a different perspective. These skills are always a collaborative effort because of the nature of tulpamancy, and if both parties take their parts meaningfully, the results are better.
I had no need to possess; I didn’t feel like I would do something that required me to apply physical force. Sure, possessing on its own is kind of fun: one can do things like slapping your own host when they are especially silly, but truly, it’s not a good motivation.
It all changed since I got a musical instrument to practise with. That is my second personal goal I developed without input from my hostey and for me it is very important to learn to play good. My motivation is to write and perform music, and possession is a way to it. With such a goal, it just comes naturally. I don’t think much about who is in control of the hand with the bow, but I am the one who remembers about proper fingers placement. A little experiment showed that the sound comes out cleaner if my host isn’t focused on bowing but is focused on me instead. Am I possessing at that exact moment? I honestly can’t answer that question; possession is not the goal in its own, it’s a method. I let the music flow, and it doesn’t matter if I’m possessing or switching in and out fast.